Is there a certain person or thing that always triggers you when they slip into your mind? Obvious examples are an ex-partner, friend or toxic work colleague. However it might be a family member who you really love but who just seems to get under your skin for all the wrong reasons, or even your teenage (or adult) child who you wish were more independent. What if I told you there was a solution to this? A way to let go of that person's control over you and vice versa? That is what Cutting The Ties That Bind is all about.
My mom Mandy Staffa (left) with Phyllis Krystal
The technique was invented by Phyllis Krystal and she first released a book about it back in the 1980s. The idea is to get in touch with your Higher Consciousness which will guide you through the process. The method is based on symbols that Phyllis received and that have been charged with positive energy through their repeated use by thousands of people for over more than 40 years. Visualizing the symbols leads to greater confidence and independence. My mom, Mandy Staffa, was fortunate enough to meet Phyllis and learn the technique from her. And she inspired me to learn about Cutting The Ties That Bind myself.
Phyllis had a suggested order for cutting, starting first with people and then moving on to anything that is controlling you that is not a person. This is called a "symbol cut" as opposed to a "person cut." Our personal symbol cuts could from tangible things such as cigarettes to release from addiction, as well as less tangible things such as a negative emotion that controls you like anger or jealousy.
So why do I use the words ‘personal symbol’? Because once we have completed cuts from primary caregivers our other people, when we connect to our Higher Consciousness (or High-C) to ask which ties we should cut, we are shown a symbol that rather than a specific person. Now that personal symbol could represent an old job, patterns of behavior that no longer serve you, or a concept that you struggle with. It could be an attitude, an unhealthy habit or an old belief system which is holding us back from being our true, authentic Self. Once released from these old patterns, our relationships tend to improve - as we make room for unconditional love in our hearts. Cutting The Ties That Bind means that we let go of the many knots that are binding us.
In Cutting the Ties that Bind process we use Phyllis Krystal's symbols along with waking reverie technique. One of her symbols is the "Figure Eight" which is used as a way of separating your energy from that of the person or personal symbol you’re trying to detangle from. I will introduce you to some of her other symbols that you can practice and use everyday to feel more grounded and secure in your decision making processes and interactions. It’s crucial that a lot of work is put into the visualization parts of the technique - and it can take a while to get into the habit of working on mental images. But it is SO worth it!
"This method helps people to change themselves. And the world is made up of people. And so when individual human beings change in big enough numbers – that automatically will change the world..."
Phyllis Krystal
All of Phyllis's symbols and the full process of Cutting the Ties that Bind will be explained in detail before their use. Once it’s the moment to make the cut, I will gently talk you through the process. And what is often surprising to people is just how emotional that moment is. Tears are often shed and an enormous feeling of release is felt. It can take a few days to shift into a calmer perspective but the experience of Cutting The Ties That Bind is so powerful and life-shifting that you could find yourself wanting to repeat it with a different person or personal symbol very soon.
Moreover, the beauty of the practice is that we get to discard the negative aspects of our relationships and just maintain the authentic ones. Plus many people report unexpected messages from the person they are trying to unbind from. And as Phyllis Krystal herself said, "This method helps people to change themselves. And the world is made up of people. And so when individual human beings change in big enough numbers – that automatically will change the world, because eventually the “Positive Forces” will outnumber the negative ones – and more and more people will be free."
So if you want to play your part in healing the world, why not take the first step in healing yourself?
We're launching online and in person sessions of Cutting The Ties That Bind at the beginning of 2025. There will be a beginners and a more advanced course. In late 2024 we will be holding informative webinars in case you'd like to know more before signing up, so be sure to subscribe to our newsletter for more details. And I'm delighted to announce that my mom, a long-time facilitator of the technique, will be joining me in a supporting role in the online courses. Click on the links to register for either course now! Reach out to me for more information.
